The Horsefly Paradox: Learning When to Stop Running (Ep 84)
Host Kelly Jackson shares a story from a hot day in Southern Louisiana when she tried repeatedly to outrun horseflies—only to later learn they can fly up to 90 mph—turning the experience into a memorable lesson about how humans keep using ineffective strategies because they feel productive. She connects the “running loop” to modern hustle culture and overstimulation, and to coping patterns like overworking to avoid inadequacy, staying busy to dodge grief or loneliness, overthinking to escape uncertainty, and perfectionism to outrun shame. Kelly explores how effort and movement aren’t the same as resolution, and offers a preview of what real change can look like: awareness, pausing, honesty, boundaries, nervous system regulation, and changing strategy instead of increasing force. She also mentions her notes-app idea archive and invites listeners to explore Self-Love Uni and other resources.
From the Episode:
- " I was trying to solve the problem with a strategy that was fundamentally incapable of working."
- " Which means I was never even close. And I was exhausting myself trying to escape something that speed was never gonna solve."
- " ...avoidance creates the illusion of movement, but movement is not the same thing as resolution..."
- " That's literally the loop, trying the same method repeatedly, harder, faster, more intensely, without realizing that the method itself is incapable of solving the problem."
- " Some things in life cannot be healed through speed. And you cannot outrun your nervous system, and you cannot outrun grief, and you cannot outrun truth. You cannot outrun yourself."
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